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Oct 8, 2024 10:30 PM

Author:Rachel Thompson,Rachel Thompson

Rough

Brought to you by Penguin.

A bad sexual experience.

A grey area.

Not rape but...

A violation - these are the terms we use to describe the experiences we don't have words for. The way we talk about topics such as sex, consent, assault aren't fit for purpose.

Rough is a revolutionary non-fiction work exploring the narratives of sexual violence that we don't talk about. Through powerful testimony from 50 women and non-binary people, this book shines a light on the sexual violence that takes place in our bedrooms and beyond, sometimes at the hands of people we know, trust, or even love. Rough investigates violations such as 'stealthing,' non-consensual choking, and non-consensual rough sex acts that our culture is only starting to recognise as sexual violence.

The book explores the ways in which systems of oppression manifest in our sexual culture - from racist microaggressions, to fatphobic acts of aggression, and ableist dehumanising behaviour. An intersectional, sex-positive, kink-positive work, the book also examines how white supremacy, transphobia, biphobia, homophobia, and misogyny are driving forces behind sexual violence.

Rough is an urgent, timely call for change to the systems that oppress us all. It's time for a societal shift. As individuals with agency within our sexual culture we have the power to remodel our behaviour and this book shows us how.

© Rachel Thompson 2021 (P) Penguin Audio 2021

Reviews

Rough is one of the most comprehensive and interesting books I've ever read. I recommend it to all my friends and patients as essential reading in the world of psychosexual therapy. I cannot say enough good things about it. You won't put it down.

—— Gigi Engle, author of 'All The F*ing Mistakes'

An unflinching examination of the damaging sexual narratives often hidden or less talked about, Rough looks at the way culture and gender perceptions influence our behaviour in bed. Thompson's writing is burning and unapologetic, and contracts with sharpness and verve. An important, thought-provoking read which renders systems and personal attitudes, and starts a helpful dialogue (in a hope to) to kindle positive change.

—— Nataliya Deleva, author of 'Arrival'

This is indispensable reading for anyone who wants both breadth and detail in how sexual consent is expressed, understood and all too often violated. Rough is inclusive and sympathetic writing that, importantly, remains sex positive and optimistic for a future with more knowledge and more power. It's consent writing that would make anyone want to change the world from one of the UK's leading voices on the issue.

—— Sophia Smith Galer, author of 'Losing It'

Rough speaks to how many women often feel after sexual encounters - violated but unsure of exactly why, and whether our feelings are valid. This book is excellent and demonstrates just how valid those feelings are.

—— Adele Walton, founder of Humanitarian Hotgirl

An incredible investigation into a frighteningly common part of our sexual experience; determined to give ownership back to those who have had their agency stolen from them.

—— Dr Fern Riddell

You need to read this.

—— Mashable

2021's most important book about sex.

—— Stylist

'Our life stories are powerful. We all carry our own unique life story bag that contains positive experiences and that same story bag also contains a variety of heavy rocks from difficult situations we have experienced. These rocks can stand in the way of our highest potential and our happiness. Bill Beswick shares real stories from his amazing career that provide inspiration and strategies to remove those rocks from our individual story bags, lighten our spirits and keep us moving towards the best version of ourselves'

—— Celia Slater, CEO, True North Sports, Founder, The Coach Development Academy

Oliver Burkeman provides an important and insightful reassessment of productivity. The drive to get more done can become an excuse to avoid figuring out what we actually want to accomplish. Only by confronting this latter question can we unlock a calmer, more meaningful, more resilient approach to organizing our time

—— Cal Newport, bestselling author of A World Without Email and Deep Work

We all know our time is limited. What we don't know - but what Oliver Burkeman is here to teach us - is that our control over that time is also limited. This profound (and often hilarious) book will prompt you to rethink your worship of efficiency, reject the cult of busyness, and reconfigure your life around what truly matters

—— Daniel H. Pink, author of When, Drive, and To Sell is Human

This is the most important book ever written about time management. Oliver Burkeman offers a searing indictment of productivity hacking and profound insights on how to make the best use of our scarcest, most precious resource. His writing will challenge you to rethink many of your beliefs about getting things done-and you'll be wiser because of it

—— Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Again and host of WorkLife

I have long loved Oliver Burkeman's wise and witty journalism that both interrogates and elevates the 'self-help' realm-revealing its possibilities for absurdity while honoring the deeper human impulses that it meets. Four Thousand Weeks is a splendid offering in that spirit. This book is at once sobering and refreshing on all that is truly at stake in what we blithely refer to as 'time management.' It invites nothing less than a new relationship with time-and with life itself

—— Krista Tippett, host of On Being

Four Thousand Weeks is a book to read and re-read, to absorb and reflect on. Compassionate, funny and wise, it has not left my mind since I read it. The modern world teaches us to pretend to be immortal-this book is a dip in the cold, clear waters of reality, returning us refreshed and alive

—— Naomi Alderman, author of The Power

Peppered with good stories... Subtle, provocative and multi-layered... Offers many wise pointers to a happier, less stress-filled life, with none of the usual smug banalities of the self-help genre... Happy days!

—— Craig Brown , Mail on Sunday

Four Thousand Weeks is full of such sage and sane advice, delivered with dry wit and a benevolent tone. I didn't wish back any of the time I spent reading it

—— Joe Moran , Guardian

A fantastic, warm, clever book

—— Kate Mosse

Terrific

—— Derren Brown , The Times

Every so often you read a book that so profoundly shifts your thinking that you feel indebted with gratitude to the author. Utterly brilliant

—— Yasmin Khan

So easy to read that I finished it in one sitting... I'll probably never organise my time so well again

—— Henry Mance , Financial Times, *Books of the Year*

I seldom read self-help books, but Oliver Burkeman's Four Thousand Weeks is in a class of its own

—— James Wilsdon , Research Professional News, *Books of the Year*

A compelling argument for why we should be doing less and doing it better... This comforting, calm book is filled with sensible, practical ideas

—— Independent, *Books of the Year*

Burkeman offers practical solutions to problems that might otherwise seem too monolithic to disassemble

—— Emily Watkins , i

Oliver Burkeman's Guardian feature was called "This Column Will Change Your Life". The wisdom of this book could do the same

—— Julia Bueno , Times Literary Supplement

[A] brilliant, comforting time-management guide

—— Stig Abell , Sunday Times

Kind of cool

—— Jeff Bridges
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