Author:Alexandra Heminsley,Alexandra Heminsley
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'Today I sat on a bench facing the sea, the one where I waited for L to be born, and sobbed my heart out. I don't know if I'll ever recover.'
This note was written on 9 November 2017. As the seagulls squawked overhead and the sun dipped into the sea, Alexandra Heminsley's world was turning inside out.
She'd just been told her then-husband was going to transition. The revelation threatened to shatter their brand new, still fragile, family.
But this vertiginous moment represented only the latest in a series of events that had left Alex feeling more and more dissociated from her own body, turning her into a seemingly unreliable narrator of her own reality.
Some Body to Love is Alex's profoundly open-hearted memoir about losing her husband but gaining a best friend, and together bringing up a baby in a changing world. Its exploration of what it means to have a human body, to feel connected or severed from it, and how we might learn to accept our own, makes it a vital and inspiring contribution to some of the most complex and heated conversations of our times.
© Alexandra Heminsley 2021 (P) Penguin Audio 2021
Jaw-dropping... This is an extraordinary, kind, and generous book about what it means to live in a woman's body and the questions you ask yourself along the way.
—— Independent, *Books of the Year*Staggering... Heminsley is unflinching in her exploration of her feelings.
—— Daisy Goodwin , Sunday TimesHeartbreak and happiness sit in tandem in Alexandra Heminsley's wise and generous book.
—— Eithne Farry , Daily MirrorGenerous, calm and thoughtful... Some Body to Love argues cogently for greater openness and understanding towards different gender expressions...also page-turningly compelling
—— Holly Williams , ObserverA vital call for compassion and awareness...a hugely hopeful and deftly written book - and one that might encourage greater empathy in how we respond to all kinds of difference
—— Gwendolyn Smith , iThis insightful memoir covers some hefty subjects -- gender identity, body image, infertility, divorce -- with wisdom and grace
—— Good HousekeepingBreathtakingly honest, warm and generous, Some Body To Love is a testament to how family and love can be whatever shape we want them to be
—— Sarra Manning , RedA treatise on empathy and grace in extraordinary circumstances
—— Jojo MoyesThis memoir is going to change a lot of people's lives, and I think it's going to change the conversation
—— Damian Barr , Big Scottish Book ClubInsightful and wise, generous and kind
—— David NichollsA brave, thoughtful and timely book -- calming and inspiring on our different relationships with our bodies, and vitally compassionate on trans rights
—— Naomi AldermanIt took my breath away . . . It's such a beautiful book, so full of compassion and kindness even in its furious honesty . . . You are going to love it
—— Bryony GordonA book about how a personal crisis caused someone to open up rather than shut down . . . really admirable and carefully done . . . on bodies, families, gender identity, bravery
—— Amy LiptrotWise, kind, funny, sad and beautifully written. Everyone who occupies a human body should read it
—— Erin KellyFabulous . . . Sensitively and cleverly written . . . remarkable
—— Judy MurrayThe most moving and real account of a person's relationship with their body I have ever read... A book with a wild, deep, joyous, tender love of people at its heart
—— Emma Jane UnsworthA much needed clarion call for greater empathy, compassion and respect for humanity
—— Daisy BuchananA sensitively written, wise and joyful look at the way that families can crack apart and then reconfigure... [Heminsley's] telling of their family tale is so warm, observant, and kind, and perfectly illustrates how malleable love can be
—— Farming LifeA gorgeous open-hearted read but also a vital, instructive one
—— Caroline Sanderson , BooksellerA raw, heartbreaking, uplifting memoir about reinvention, being a woman and love in all its forms. An important book, beautifully written
—— Kate Davies, author of In at the Deep EndAlexandra Heminsley understands what it is to be a woman in a world that judges us, our bodies, and the experience of these bodies, in every way and at all times... Charting her journey to her own body through loss, heartache and trauma, alongside love, friendship and hope, she suggests that each of us might find our own way to embody our deepest truths, and that we might do so with generosity to others on their own journey
—— Stella Duffy[Heminsley] writes with unflinching clarity
—— Brian Morton , Tablet[An] insightful memoir
—— Joanne Finney , Good HousekeepingBracingly honest...big-hearted... [and] page-turningly compelling
—— Holly Williams , ObserverSome Body To Love is an honest and thoughtful memoir that touches on difficult contemporary topics . . . Incredibly moving and very, very powerfu
—— MonocleA powerful treatise on pain and love, this is an honest, moving and authentic examination of the end of a relationship, and the way our lives can fracture and recover from sudden, seismic shifts. Heminsley's writing is sharply resonant - you don't have to share her experiences to be struck by her observations about letting go with love, and how we can find strength in self-love too
—— SheerLuxe, *Books of the Year*I wish I had saved The Shapeless Unease to read in isolation but Samantha Harvey’s book about insomnia, time, death and so many unknowable things is a blessing to have in lonely times. It is a profound and stunning book but funny, too.
—— Fatima Bhutto , Evening StandardA beautiful, jagged little book about insomnia and so many unknowable things: life and death, Buddhism, and how language alters our thinking. But I was most struck by its form and structure.
—— Fatima Bhutto , New Statesman[Samantha Harvey's] cerebral, startlingly clear account of somehow pulling through [from insomnia] carries an electric charge and meditates on not only the mystery of sleep but also writing, swimming and dreams.
—— Net-a-Porter[The Shapeless Unease] is beautifully crafted and its achievement makes itself more apparent on a second reading.
—— Richard Gwyn , Wales Art ReviewA masterpiece, so good I can hardly breathe. I'm completely floored by it.
—— Helen MacdonaldThis book seems appropriately messy-haired and wild-eyed... Anyone who has lain awake the night before a big test will recognize such manic flourishes. Harvey captures the 4 a.m. bloom of magical thinking; stories proliferate within stories... To read Harvey is to grow spoiled on gorgeous phrases.
—— Katy Waldman , New Yorker