Author:Elizabeth Kim
I don't know how old I was when I watched my mother's murder, nor do I know how old I am today.'
The illegitimate daughter of a peasant and an American GI, Elizabeth Kim spent her early years as a social outcast in her village in the Korean countryside. Ostracized by their family and neighbours, she and her mother were regularly pelted with stones on their way home from the rice fields. Yet there was a tranquil happiness in the intense bond between mother and daughter. Until the day that Elizabeth's grandfather and uncle came to punish her mother from the dishonour she had brought on the family, and executed her in front of her daughter.
Elizabeth was dumped in an orphanage in Seoul. After some time, she was lucky enough to be adopted by an American couple. But when she arrived in America she found herself once again surrounded by fanaticism and prejudice.
Elizabeth's mother had always told her that life was made up of ten thousand joys as well as ten thousand sorrows, and, supported by her loving daughter, and by a return to her Buddhist faith, she finally found a way to savour those joys, as well as the courage to exorcise the demons of her past.
It is astonishing that Kim has survived...All one wants for this exceptional woman is that she be granted ten thousand joys to expunge all the sorrows that have been her life's companion.
—— THE TIMESElizabeth Kim's remarkable life is tragic...More harrowing than any novel.
—— ARTHUR GOLDEN, author of Memoirs of a GeishaA magnificent tribute to the power of forgiveness.
—— DAVE PELZAR, author A Child Called ‘It’A Lucid Dreamer is sensible, readable, and sympathetic to its subject, without disguising his faults.
—— Graeme Richardson , Times Literary SupplementA Lucid Dreamer offers a sympathetic and accurate biography of the man in a book that traverses some pretty strange territory without loosing either its sense of humour or its respect for its subject.
—— Sean O’Brien , The Sunday TimesRoberts is probably Redgrove’s greatest admirer and his book does his man proud … generous and insightful … if he pushes things too far in claiming Redgrove as a major talent, no-one in future will dare to describe him as a poor man’s Ted Hughes.
—— Blake Morrison , GuardianImagine Montaigne as a thoroughly modern unmarried mother and freelance journalist living in south London... Everywhere there is detail, and nuance, and care about others, and about words
—— GuardianShilling is brave and endearingly frank
—— ScotsmanAn intelligent discursion on what it means to be a no-longer-youthful female in a world obsessed with staying young ... Her thoughts are refreshing, provocative and a pleasure to read
—— MetroJane Shilling is an excellent writer...this is detailed, personal and memorable
—— William Leith , Evening StandardThe essay form, with its drifts and lurches, suits Shilling's purposes perfectly as she catalogues her experience of middle-ages confusion and loss... all with detail, nuance, enthusiasm and care
—— Ian Sansom , GuardianThe usual stereotypes about grumpy old women are jettisoned in favour of ironic and nuanced observations about sexuality, identity and death in this crisply written memoir about middle age
—— Benjamin Evans , Daily TelegraphAn honest midlife memoir of ageing, false expectations and unrealised dreams
—— Michael Binyon , The TimesDetailed, personable and memorable
—— William Leith , ScotsmanHer story may not be unusual, but the elegance and range of her writing most certainly is. The journey is a delight
—— Daily TelegraphFans of this beautifully crafted, critically acclaimed memoir of middle-age might well take the view that it should be distributed free on the NHS to all women over 50... a penetrating analysis of the challenges and heartaches of life's middle phase
—— Katherine Whitbourn , Daily MailShilling casts a self-critical eye over the events that have shaped her life
—— Emma Hagestadt , IndependentThe specifics of her early abuse is vivid, violent, and no less horrifying for its familiarity... If the memoir was begun as a final exorcism of the monster mother, it ends with a moving acceptance of her
—— IndependentMoved me deeply. [It] celebrates the redeeming power of the written word and is undercut with an irresistible humour born of residence in hardship
—— Juliet Nicholson , Evening Standard, Books of the YearAn extraordinary tragic-comic literary autobiography
—— Mark Lawson , Guardian, Books of the YearThere is something darkly Dickensian in the urgency and energy of her character and quest, in the acute, abrupt style of her self-presentation and in the extreme characters who have informed her life
—— The TimesFunny and scary mixed together, in the manner of the Brothers Grimm, sharp as a knife, round as a child's eye
—— Daily TelegraphDifficult, spirited, engaging... a resonant affirmation of the power of storytelling to make things better
—— Jane Shilling , Daily MailMoving, turbulent
—— Zoe Williams , GuardianShattering, brilliant memoir... Here childhood eas ghastly, as bad as Dickens's stint in the blacking factory, but it was also the crucible for her incendiary talent
—— Daisy Goodwin , Sunday TimesVerbalyl dazzling, emotionally searing, compassionate and often hilarious memoir
—— Genevieve Fox , Daily MailJeanette Winterson's new memoir appears to have been highly praised, rightly it seems to me, for its zest and candour and noted for a quality that some reviewers have seen as haste or even carelessness but which I see as her characteristic lively, pugnacious inventiveness.
—— Nicholas Murray , Bibliophilic BloggerThe prose is breathtaking: witty, biblical, chatty and vigorous all at once. She defines the pursuit of happiness not as being content (which is "fleeting" and "a bit bovine"), but as the impulse to "swim upstream", the search for a meaningful life. This breathless, powerful book is that search.
—— Emily Strokes , Financial TimesWinterson is a bold author with a track record of writing imaginative transformation tales, and this is a work about the power of words, stories and books to give identity to a life that is in turns shocking, funny, warm and wise.
—— Tina Jackson , MetroEngaging memoir.
—— Daily TelegraphThere clear-eyed, drily witty, searingly moving memoir.
—— Katie Owen , TelegraphIt does all that committed fans might hope... This is far funnier than the novel that made Winterson’s name... Brilliant book.
—— Catherine Nixey , The TimesAn inspirational memoir written in beautiful exact prose that celebrates the wildness of the ordinary. Winterson’s understanding of who she is… is both appallingly funny and deeply moving. Essential reading for anyone with a snitch of an interest in writing
—— Rachel Joyce , The TimesWhy Be Happy When You Can Be Normal? burrowed deep and made me laugh and weep. This memoir has a great warmth and an intensity and honesty that is rare and the writing is exceptional
—— Jamie Byng , HeraldWinterson’s unconventional and winning memoir wrings humor from adversity as it describes her upbringing by a wildly deranged mother
—— New York TimesIt is in laying the truth bare in this unflinchingly honest and gripping memoir that Winterson really seems to find self-acceptance, love and even happiness
—— Yvonne Cassidy , The Gloss