Author:John Tierney,Roy F. Baumeister
Why does a bad impression last longer than a good one? Why does losing money affect us more than gaining it? What makes phobias so hard to shake?
The answer is the negativity bias - or in other words, the power of bad. As John Tierney and Roy F. Baumeister show, we are wired to react to bad events more strongly than good ones. It makes sense in evolutionary terms, but in our modern world the lure of bad is more powerful than ever. It governs our moods, drives marketing and dominates the news. It can explain everything from why wars start or couples divorce, to why we mess up job interviews or feud with neighbours.
But there is good news. By using smart strategies from new science, we can train our brains to get better at spotting our own negativity bias, fighting back with our rational minds to manage the bad in our lives - and even using its power for positive results.
Illuminating
—— Daniel Finkelstein , TimesTierney and Baumeister argue their case forcefully and well, and supply vast quantities of evidence in its favour
—— Marcus Berkmann , Daily MailBrilliant, brutal and bitingly funny, Lees is going to rip your heart out and show you the ugly truth about kids Britain would rather pretend don't exist. There's never been a book like this
—— Matthew ToddDevastating one page, hilarious the next, What It Feels Like for a A Girl is unlike anything I have ever read. Utterly unique and imbued with hope - it is destined to be a classic.
—— Pandora SykesAn important debut
—— Édouard LouisA sensational, gut-wrenching read: raw, moving, and ultimately life-affirming
—— Owen JonesOften hilarious, sometimes moving, consistently engrossing, always authentic and ultimately uplifting. Reminiscent of Trainspotting and Irvine Welsh. A tour-de-force
—— Matt CainA must-read ... as mesmerising as it is poignant
—— Stylist, SPRING MUST-READ BOOKS TO FEEL EMPOWEREDThis utterly distinctive memoir, written almost out loud in Nottinghamshire vernacular, hauls you into the world Lees grew up in... it's shocking, funny, heart-rending and totally brilliant
—— The Bookseller, EDITOR’S CHOICE MAY 2021What It Feels Like for a Girl says it like it is
—— Evening Standard, BEST NEW BOOKS IN 2021A groundbreaking, peerless journey into trauma and the impossibility of fighting for the self
—— Sleaford ModsParis Lees has created a totally complete world in the way that something like Trainspotting or Skins or It's A Sin did... made a universe, populated it with people that you absolutely care about, dialect that you're completely absorbed by, then smashed your heart to smithereens
—— Alexandra HemingsleyNothing is off-limits in this unputdownable memoir ... her wit and expert storytelling soften some heartbreaking experiences
—— British VogueHeartbreaking, hilarious and impossible to put down: Paris Lees' What It Feels Like For a Girl is genuinely singular. It's raw, viscerally real and Byron is a character who will stay with you long after you've finished
—— Yomi AdegokePowerful and authentic, a memoir with the depth and writerly virtuosity of a fine novel.
—— Katherine O'DonnellA truly fresh, exciting take on the genre of memoir
—— CosmopolitanRaw, heartbreaking, and scorchingly funny, What It Feels Like For A Girl is a boldly-written and truly transformative account of an extraordinary life story. Please do yourself a favour and read it
—— Otegha UwagbaLees has lived an extraordinary life, and it makes for extraordinary writing
—— Rebecca Nicholson , GuardianA ketamine-laced coming of age memoir... recalls being in a nightclub where you can still smoke and euphoric music blares non-stop ... a dark comedy from a little-heard perspective. Even when there's blood dripping on the page as a result of bullying, Lees manages to make it read like a sketch ... very powerful
—— Kadish Morris , The ObserverHeartbreaking and hilarious
—— Dazed MagazineSmart and exuberant... By excavating her painful past in her memoir, [Lees] has crafted a vivid story of trauma, rebellion and astonishing resilience
—— Fiona Sturges , The GuardianFast and funny and furious... the writing is so alive and warm that you don't feel remotely miserable while reading it, even while your heart is pounding for her
—— Sophie Heawood , GraziaIt is so vivid, and the use of dialect so clever, that it feels as if you are living her life with her.
—— David WalliamsWritten in a chatty, instantly endearing vernacular, What It Feels Like For A Girl is a crank-it-up-to-11 account of the British trans experience.
—— Refinery29Written entirely in Midlands dialect, with each chapter named after a Noughties hit, Paris Lees's novelised account of her Nottingham childhood will make you shake with laughter and weep with heartbreak in the space of a few pages.
—— British Vogue Summer ReadsSet to be one of this summer's must-reads, Paris Lees' debut book is a coming-of-age memoir about her early life in the East Midlands. Written in Nottingham dialect, it's a story of growing up in a small town, with deliciously evocative tales of Noughties nights out.
—— Evening StandardEnergetic, dark and hilarious. Paris Lees, with her loud and proud sense of self, is set to explode.. if you read one book this summer, make it What It Feels Like for a Girl... radically cool, explosive and riotous ... long may Lees' voice shine neon bright
—— Shivani Kochnar , The Daily MailLike Alan Sillitoe on acid... it's got to be a film. I've never read anything like it.
—— Vicky McClureRaw and original
—— Elle MagazineExtraordinary, riotous, furiously unique, moving and funny, What It Feels Like for a Girl is a deeply important book as well as being a fantastic read
—— Elizabeth DayClever, gripping, messy, sad. I loved it.
—— Travis AlabanzaSadness and joy also go hand-in-hand in What It Feels Like for a Girl, an exuberant account of Paris Lees's tearaway teenage years in Hucknall, Nottinghamshire, where "the streets are paved wi' dog shit". Her gender nonconformity is just one aspect of an adolescence that also features bullying, violence, prostitution, robbery and a spell in a young offenders' institute. Yet despite the many traumas, Lees finds joy and kinship in the underground club scene and a group of drag queens who cocoon her in love and laughter.
—— Fiona Sturges , The Guardian, Best Books of 2021Bold and compulsively readable... She writes with humour about heartbreakingly harrowing moments while simultaneously capturing the dazzling joy of Nottingham nightlife and the importance of finding those who accept you for who you truly are
—— Emma Hanson , Harper's Bazaar, memoirs and autobiographies to be inspired by