Author:Dannie Abse
WINNER OF THE WALES BOOK OF THE YEAR AND SHORTLISTED FOR THE PEN/ACKERLY PRIZE.
Several months after the death of poet Dannie Abse's wife, Joan, in a car accident, he began to write a diary which is both a record of present grief and a portrait of a marriage that lasted more than fifty years. It is an extraordinary document, painful but celebratory, funny yet often tragic, bursting with joy as well as sorrow and full of a deep understanding of what it means to be human.
A supremely fresh and vital performance, matching profound emotion with witty observation... This is a truly marvellous book
—— IndependentAbse's diary is a remarkable and tender document
—— Sunday TimesFor all its painful honesty, [this is] a surprisingly joyful and compelling book... Imbued with all the best qualities of what it means to human and in love
—— Independent on SundayThe Presence is a fragment of autobiography written from the most private part of a poet's heart, with a pen dipped in blood and tears. That it transcends this to become both elegiac and celebratory, to inhabit both the suffered present and the beloved past, places it almost beyond the scope of routine criticism.
—— Daily TelegraphHauntingly poignant... One hopes that he comes before long to share the happiness this wise, funny, heart rending little book brings to its readers
—— Daily TelegraphFull of memorable images... As Abse performs the strange and also strangely valuable work of mourning, he offers, with The Presence, wit and balm
—— Financial TimesElegy and eulogy, full of kindness and understanding of our common vulnerablility, this lovely book is a very rich boon
—— The Times[The book] displays all the wisdom of a long life in a story linking the author with the lives of three extraordinary women connected over the centuries by an opulent Amalfi Coast villa
—— Psychologies Magazine - Mariella FrostrupA touching story of human frailty
—— Leslie McDowell , Independent on SundayHumane and sensitive, his book glows with the energy of lives restored, reanimated and celebrated
—— Sarah Bakewell , Sunday TimesA masterly blend of biography and memoir
—— Ian Pindar , GuardianA sly meditation on the biographer's art from a master of the genre
—— MetroAn accomplished biographer's tale, with a roaming narrative and many incidental pleasures on the way
—— Derwent May , The TimesWhile Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? is rich in autobiographical detail, it is a wide and bold an experiment in the memoir form as any so far written... in writing that is astonishingly naked and brave, Winterson reveals the legacy of that difficult and painful childhood... Much of this book is laugh-out-loud funny... Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? is proudly, and sometimes painfully, honest.It is also, arguably, the finest and most hopeful memoir to emerge in many years and, as such, it should not be missed
—— John Burnside , The TimesIt is clear from the first page of this shattering, brilliant memoir that the black humour of Oranges was there to disguise the true awfulness of her childhood. If things were bad in Winterson's fictional world, the reality was much, much worse... There is a sense at the end of this brave, funny, heartbreaking book that Winterson has somehow reconciled herself to her past... Her childhood was ghastly, as bad as Dickens's stint in the blacking factory, but it was also the crucible for her incendiary talent
—— Daisy Goodwin , Sunday TimesBoasts everything that she does best: courage, ferocity and prose that soars
—— Julie Myerson , New Statesman, Books of the YearIn memoir, honesty matters more than anything but, when married with humour, wit and elan vital of Jeanette Winterson's [book], it is a transformative force
—— John Burnside , New Statesman, Books of the YearThe specifics of her early abuse is vivid, violent, and no less horrifying for its familiarity... If the memoir was begun as a final exorcism of the monster mother, it ends with a moving acceptance of her
—— IndependentMoved me deeply. [It] celebrates the redeeming power of the written word and is undercut with an irresistible humour born of residence in hardship
—— Juliet Nicholson , Evening Standard, Books of the YearAn extraordinary tragic-comic literary autobiography
—— Mark Lawson , Guardian, Books of the YearThere is something darkly Dickensian in the urgency and energy of her character and quest, in the acute, abrupt style of her self-presentation and in the extreme characters who have informed her life
—— The TimesFunny and scary mixed together, in the manner of the Brothers Grimm, sharp as a knife, round as a child's eye
—— Daily TelegraphDifficult, spirited, engaging... a resonant affirmation of the power of storytelling to make things better
—— Jane Shilling , Daily MailMoving, turbulent
—— Zoe Williams , GuardianShattering, brilliant memoir... Here childhood eas ghastly, as bad as Dickens's stint in the blacking factory, but it was also the crucible for her incendiary talent
—— Daisy Goodwin , Sunday TimesVerbalyl dazzling, emotionally searing, compassionate and often hilarious memoir
—— Genevieve Fox , Daily MailJeanette Winterson's new memoir appears to have been highly praised, rightly it seems to me, for its zest and candour and noted for a quality that some reviewers have seen as haste or even carelessness but which I see as her characteristic lively, pugnacious inventiveness.
—— Nicholas Murray , Bibliophilic BloggerThe prose is breathtaking: witty, biblical, chatty and vigorous all at once. She defines the pursuit of happiness not as being content (which is "fleeting" and "a bit bovine"), but as the impulse to "swim upstream", the search for a meaningful life. This breathless, powerful book is that search.
—— Emily Strokes , Financial TimesWinterson is a bold author with a track record of writing imaginative transformation tales, and this is a work about the power of words, stories and books to give identity to a life that is in turns shocking, funny, warm and wise.
—— Tina Jackson , MetroEngaging memoir.
—— Daily TelegraphThere clear-eyed, drily witty, searingly moving memoir.
—— Katie Owen , TelegraphIt does all that committed fans might hope... This is far funnier than the novel that made Winterson’s name... Brilliant book.
—— Catherine Nixey , The TimesAn inspirational memoir written in beautiful exact prose that celebrates the wildness of the ordinary. Winterson’s understanding of who she is… is both appallingly funny and deeply moving. Essential reading for anyone with a snitch of an interest in writing
—— Rachel Joyce , The TimesWhy Be Happy When You Can Be Normal? burrowed deep and made me laugh and weep. This memoir has a great warmth and an intensity and honesty that is rare and the writing is exceptional
—— Jamie Byng , HeraldWinterson’s unconventional and winning memoir wrings humor from adversity as it describes her upbringing by a wildly deranged mother
—— New York TimesIt is in laying the truth bare in this unflinchingly honest and gripping memoir that Winterson really seems to find self-acceptance, love and even happiness
—— Yvonne Cassidy , The Gloss