Author:Lucy Dent
At the curtain call of her thirties, Lucy Dent finds herself in a marriage where meaningful communication, sexual contact and friendship have all but disappeared. Craving comfort and attention, she turns to the internet to find companionship and finds fulfilment in online sexual liaisons.
Lucy details her sexual encounters with searing honesty - but this book is so much more than a 'sex memoir'. It explores marital disharmony, loneliness, addiction and the ramifications of making the choice not to have children. In an age in which lives are played out via social networks, this compelling book exposes how the supposed security of online interaction doesn't, in fact, stay safe for very long.
A compelling memoir
—— Evening StandardExtremely addictive
—— Financial TimesGriffiths's writing is dexterous and lush
—— New York Times Book ReviewA rich and extraordinary vision. Jay Griffiths is a fearless adventurer with words and images. I salute her courage
—— Philip PullmanJay Griffiths is one of our most poetic and passionate critics of the ways of civilisation. Provocative, illuminating and shamelessly romantic
—— Theodore ZeldinJay Griffiths writes with such richness and mischief about the one thing that could truly save the world: its children
—— KT TunstallAn impassioned, visionary plea to restore to our children the spirit of adventure, freedom and closeness to nature that is their birthright. We must hear it and act on it before it is too late
—— Iain McGilchristA colourful romp through psychology, philosophy and popular culture.
—— New HumanistA balanced and considered approach to this often inflammatory topic.
—— NatureA colorful romp through psychology, philosophy and popular culture.
—— New HumanistWitty... [Bering] employs examples and analogies that make his arguments seem like common sense rather than the hard-earned scientific insights they really are.
—— New ScientistGrosz strikes the right balance of professional detachment and compassion, coupled with humility and self-awareness... The most helpful book I have read in recent months
—— Juanita Coulson , LadyA captivating journey... These are universal themes, insights into an emotional world we inhabit, often with equal difficulty. A wonderful book
—— Sunday TimesA gripping series of tales
—— PsychologiesThe Examined Life is a series of case studies from psychoanalyst Stephen Grosz's 25-year career. They fizz and shimmer with the tension of the finest short story. But they also have a profound vision of the world, which, however distorted it is, makes me examine my own
—— David Giles , UK Press SyndicationSo significant that it should be read by absolutely everyone... A masterpiece of observation and empathy
—— Georgia Mizen , UpcomingThe Examined Life is a fascinating and original read. It is inspirational and shows how we can learn more about ourselves by exploring our subconscious thoughts and beliefs
—— Sunday Mail[Illuminates] the dark recesses of human behaviour with clarity and humanity
—— Good Book GuideThoughtful and surprisingly addictive
—— Susie Steiner , MetroFascinating… Sincere
—— Emma Norris , PsychologistFar and away the best non-fiction book this year
—— Hannah Beckerman , Huffington Post UK (Blog)Wonderfully rich and insightful
—— Julian Ovenden , Daily ExpressA brilliant read
—— Nadine O’Regan , Sunday Business PostEssays true to psychoanalytic principles, but free from jargon; they have the quality of the best short stories.
—— Lorna Bradbury , Daily TelegraphGrosz is able to expand out creating universal themes and experiences that makes every chapter personally relevant to the reader. It is a fascinating process that challenges you to reflect honestly about your own experiences… Indeed this is both the perfect book for someone with no psychology background or someone who works in the area… I found this book extremely interesting… I would highly recommend to anyone wanting an interesting and fascinating social science read and it is a book you’ll remember long after reading.
—— Topic UKGrosz’s vignettes are so brilliantly put together that they read like pieces of bare, illuminating fiction. . . utterly captivating
—— Robert Collins , Sunday TimesMarvellous… After reading [Grosz’s] absorbing accounts of his patients’ journeys you might feel that The Examined Life ought to be given out free at birth
—— Melissa Katsoulis , The TimesCrystal-clear and completely magical…The Examined Life is a book full of troubles, but also of wonders
—— Craig Brown , Mail on SundayEngaging, frank, and with many penetrating insights. His short, succinct chapters have both the tension and the satisfaction of miniature detective or mystery stories
—— Michael Holroyd , The SpectatorBy turns edifying and moving…Grosz offers astute insights into the perplexities of everyday life
—— Trisha Andres , Financial Times[Grosz's accounts] are shaped like short stories, but true and moving in ways that fiction cannot be […] distilled through long examination into finely crafted literary form…
—— Alexander Linklater , ObserverGrosz’s message is always affirming…it is possible to change
—— Mark Crockett , The ScotsmanExcellent… Every one of these case histories bears repeating. All offer worthwhile insights
—— Susanna Rustin , GuardianIntelligent, human and deeply moving
—— Jane Clinton , Sunday Express'Grosz] writes lucidly and with sensitivity… sprinkled with wise reflections… A gem… highly recommended
—— Leyla Sanai , The Independent[A] fine and moving book… It is a true literary work and a very modern one…
—— Anthony Rudolf , Jewish ChronicleThat rarest of pleasures: a book I loved, and could recommend to almost anyone
—— John Self , Asylum blogEnlightening…full of wisdom and insight
—— Sophie Hannah , MetroBeautifully unadorned writing... He paints a vivid portrait of his patients
—— Sunday Business PostA rare insight into the life of the psychoanalyst… succeeds in making complex behavioural issues accessible for any reader
—— Kathryn Gaw , Irish TimesExquisitely written casebook
—— Vantage NW MagazineThe suspense in each chapter is so expert that I had to double check that this wasn’t a work of fiction. Best of all, Grosz manages to give a jargon-free account of how psychoanalysis works
—— The WeekBy turns edifying and moving… Grosz offers astute insights into the perplexities of everyday life
—— Trisha Andres , Financial TimesGrosz's vignettes are so brilliantly put together that they read like pieces of bare illuminating fiction... It is this combination of tenacious detective work, remarkable compassion and sheer, unending curiosity for the oddities of the human heart that makes these stories utterly captivating.
—— Sunday TimesBrilliant…. Grosz is a superb writer, yes, but it is the stories his patients tell him that really make you marvel. An elegant, jargon-free expedition into the secret business of our minds written with such wisdom and kindness… After reading [Grosz’s] absorbing accounts of his patients’ journeys you might feel that The Examined Life out to be given out free at birth
—— Melissa Katsoulis , The TimesA fine and moving book... The tact, patience and understatement, which are particular components of Grosz’s wisdom, remind the reader that this writer’s insights and empathy result from thousand of hours with patients. This book is not polemical literature… nor is it an academic work or a popular self-help book. It is a true literary work and a very modern one.
—— Jewish ChronicleCrystal-clear and completely magical...The Examined Life is a book full of troubles, but also of wonders: it shows people trapped by their own mysterious impulses, searching for an escape hatch, and often finding it
—— Craig Brown , Daily MailFive star review - an intelligent, human and deeply moving book… Grosz is listening for the unspoken and the gaps in between. His book celebrates change and the triumphs and tragedies of humanity
—— Jane Clinton , Sunday ExpressExcellent… this book arrives like a box of chocolates. Thirty-one elegantly presented chapters which, when you bite into them, each reveals something sweet, rich or crunchy. Every one of these case histories bears repeating. All offer worthwhile insights.
—— Susanna Rustin , The GuardianEngaging, frank, and with many penetrating insights. His short, succinct chapters have both the tension and the satisfaction of miniature detective or mystery stories… A stimulating book.
—— The SpectatorGrosz writes lucidly and with sensitivity, treating his patients with respect. The cases are sprinkled with wise reflections... highly recommended
—— IndependentThere are many sage lessons here, backed up by research where necessary…fascinating… Grosz writes lucidly and with sensitivity, treating his patients with respect. The cases are sprinkled with wise reflections…highly recommended
—— Leylai Sinai , IndependentIntensely readable… As a reminder of the strangeness of human existence, the myriad ways we find of making ourselves unhappy and the perplexing resourcefulness of the unconscious mind, Grosz’s book is a worthwhile addition to the literature of the examined life.
—— New StatesmanWritten with real elegance and a strong sense of structure… several chapters read like powerful short stories
—— Readers DigestElegantly structured and written… Grosz’s book is intensely readable
—— Jane Shilling , New StatesmenShaped like short stories, but true and moving in ways that fiction cannot be... Gradually accumulating through his book, Grosz provides, not a definition, but an enactment of the purpose of psychoanalysis, which is both modest and profound.
—— Alexander Linklater , ObserverGrosz is an able writer, engaging, frank and with many penetrating insights. His short, succinct chapters have both the tension and the satisfaction of miniature detective or mystery stories… a stimulating book
—— Michael Holroyd , Spectator[These] interpretations make fascinating reading, leave you marvelling at the ingenuity of the human subconscious. Grosz’s message is always affirming: if a person can work out what it is that’s driving them, it is possible to change
—— Mary Crockett , The ScotsmanGrosz’s narrative is by turns edifying and moving...tempered by his engaging prose and moments of humour
—— Trisha Andres , The Financial TimesI couldn't put this down—I read about other people, but learned about myself at the same time. Real stories can be so much more fascinating than fictional ones, especially with Stephen Grosz. No preaching, no clichés—just wisdom.
—— Victoria HislopModest and profound
—— Alexander Linklater , Observer